Sometimes the Basics are Best!
I’m a child of the 80’s.
I grew up watching The Karate Kid, and to this day, I still watch THE ENTIRE TRILOGY at least once per year. If you’ve been living under a rock for the last 31 years, The Karate Kid is the story of a boy, Daniel, who finds himself being bullied at school. Eventually the local fix man, Mr Miyagi, decides to train him in karate, and eventually becomes a father figure to the boy.
The film is famous (or infamous) for Mr. Miyagi’s unusual training methods. In a series of scenes Mr. Miyagi has Daniel paint his fence, sand his deck, and wax his cars. Eventually it is revealed that Mr. Miyagi had him perform these tasks to train him on specific hand motions which are the fundamentals of karate. The vast majority of their time was spent exclusively on these basic motions and skills.
In the climax of the film, Daniel faces his bullies in a karate tournament. There he takes on many multiple
opponents who are better athletes and more advanced martial artists than him. In the end Daniel is victorious by sticking to the basics he mastered instead of attempting a series of flashy moves.
When it comes to love and marriage, I think that too often we’re looking for flashy tricks or quick fixes instead of going back to the basics.
The fundamentals of love are spelled out pretty clearly in a passage which many of us had read at our weddings.
1 Corinthians 13
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Sometimes the most basic ways to love someone are the most difficult. The idea of love is simple, but the actions themselves are hard. Loving someone may not be easy, but it can be simple.
12 Simple Ways to Love Your Spouse!
#01 | Be patient with your spouse’s most annoying qualities
#02 | Choose to be kind to your spouse daily
#03 | Speak great of your spouse, not yourself
#05 | Serve your spouse
#06 | Learn to never speak or fight when angry
#07 | Forgive & forget instead of holding grudges
#08 | Never celebrate your spouse’s failings
#09 | Always celebrate their victories
#10 | Always protect your spouse
#11 | Always believe the best instead of assuming the worst
#12 | Always believe in your marriage
While each of these by themselves are simple ideas, they can be remarkably difficult to apply in real life situations. It’s easy to put someone else first for a little while, but eventually life gets hard. You will become tired, and in those times when you want to put yourself first, you must choose to put another first. When you’re both running on empty, love chooses to serve.
Love doesn’t have to be complex, but it’s never easy!
Choose to love your spouse today!
What are some simple ways to love your spouse which can be hard to actual do when life gets hard?