Candace Cameron Bure (or as you know her, D.J. Tanner, from Full House) has found herself in her own little mini-scandal. Her words didn’t divide the nation like Phil Robertson’s but, according to the internet (and I believe everything I read on the internet), she has set women back somewhere between 100 and 1,000,000,000 years. Her brother, Kirk Cameron, is no stranger to controversy, but I don’t think he’s ever been accused of setting anything back 1,000,000,000 years, let alone a 100.
Just look at what the internet had to say!
While several of these are just random comments or Tweets from the internet, the top Tweet came from a national brand whose Twitter account has over a million followers.
How did she do it? How did she single-handedly push women back into the stone age?
Well, she wrote a book, and was interviewed by the Huffington Post.
What Did Candace Cameron Do?
Several days ago, she was interviewed by the Huffington Post while promoting her new book Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose. In the book, she mentions how she chooses to submit to her husband, and how he gets the final say.
Here is the specific quote:
“I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work.”
The interviewer read the specific section of the book, and pointed out the obvious fact saying she submits to her husband is a controversial statement in this day and age.
The interviewer then asked if she would let her husband make a bad decision, even at the detriment to the family.
“Uhh yeah. Yeah. But obviously I will make my opinion very clear. And clearly I have been married for 17 years, and we have a very happy marriage that works very well. I trust my husband, but that trust has been built.” She then explains how because she trusts him, respects him, and builds him up, “He so listens to everything I have to say and takes my opinion very seriously.”
That’s it! There’s nothing more.
- She’s been happily married for 17 years.
- She has three kids.
- One of the reasons their marriage works is because she trusts her husband and submits (based on the biblical definition) to his leadership when there is a disagreement.
SHE JUST SET WOMEN BACK A BILLION YEARS!
You can watch the interview these powerful words HERE (I couldn’t figure out how to embed the video).
The Weirdest Scandal of All-Time
So, once you get past the obvious hyperbole of those claiming she’s sending women back in time, there are two really big reasons this whole thing is ridiculous:
- She’s a childhood actor who grew up to be a well adjusted adult
- She’s an actress that has been married for 17 years
It’s common knowledge that many childhood actors struggle transitioning into adulthood. Whether they go the Miley Cyrus direction (and use sex and shock tactics to keep people’s attention), or the Lindsay Lohan direction (struggling with addiction and the law), or the Amanda Bynes direction (and have a public meltdown), child actors have a long history of troubles.
You don’t even have to look beyond her younger television sisters on Full House. Jodie Sweetin was addicted to meth and alcohol, and she’s been divorced three times. As a point of reference, Jodie is my age. Mary-Kate Olsen likewise struggled with an eating disorder.
One daughter from the show has been divorced three times, and another has been married for 17 years. So, why are we treating the one who successfully transitioned into adult life like a menace to society?
Another piece of common knowledge is that Hollywood marriages don’t last. Where normal people measure their marriage by years, in Hollywood you can measure marriages by months.
As a point of reference, here is a list of celebrities who had marriages which lasted fewer months than Candace Cameron has been married years:
- Pamela Anderson
- Drew Barrymore 2x
- Sophia Bush
- Chad Michael Murray
- James Caan
- Nicolas Cage
- Jim Carrey
- Lauren Holly
- Shannen Doherty
- Patty Duke
- Kelsey Grammer
- Woody Harrelson
- Kim Kardashian
- Joan Rivers
- Charlie Sheen
- Britney Spears
- Renee Zellweger
…I got bored of typing names. I could keep going, but you get the point.
Why on earth would you criticize the marriage of a person who has been married for 17 years while in the entertainment industry?
An Upside Down World
- If you trust your husband enough to submit to him, that’s controversial
- If you and your husband make porn, that’s an interesting example of cultural progress
When Did Submission Become a Curse Word?
Submission is an Act of Trust
- A husband who doesn’t factor in his wife’s opinion doesn’t trust her.
- A wife who can’t submit to her husband’s decisions doesn’t trust him.