Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
In my lifetime I’ve broken three bones: my middle finger, my wedding ring finger, and my right foot. Each broken bone had an interesting story behind it and potentially permanent damage.
My Middle Finger
Ten days before I graduated from middle school, I was riding home from school with a friend. As I was pulling my backpack out of the backseat of the mini-van, my buddy kicked the sliding door shut, and it slammed shut on my middle finger. Following my dad’s advice, we didn’t go to the doctor. Ten days later my finger was still swollen, the nail was snapped in half, and it was turning green. Fearing my finger might fall off, my mom finally took me to the doctor. Before running any x-rays or performing a through exam, the doctor called to schedule surgery to fix my finger. They essentially rushed me to into surgery. My finger was smashed so badly they had to put a pin in my finger. To be specific, they put a pin in my finger which stuck out the end and hooked around to a point. It was a middle school boys dream come true…besides the pain and the part where I couldn’t use my left hand for three months.
My Ring Finger
Six weeks before my wedding I was playing flag football at youth group. While reaching for someone’s flag, my finger got caught in the persons shirt and it snapped. Within minutes it was wildly swollen and crooked. After a series of attempts to fix my finger, I was unable to fix it. I bought my first wedding ring while my finger was still swollen from the break. This led to a few hilarious incidents while teaching where I accidentally threw my ring at my students. They usually stayed awake in class.
Within two months my finger was fine besides being crooked.
Gossip comes in many different forms:
- Spreading rumors about someone
- Telling lies about someone
- Speculating about someone’s motives
- Over-sharing details
- Telling stories about someone that puts them in a bad light
Whether gossip comes from malicious intent or carelessness, the consequences are the same. Relationships are damaged. Feelings are hurt, and there’s no way to take back words. James compares the power of foolish words to that of a forest fire.
5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
A single foolish sentence can create an insecurity in someone.
A prank gone wrong can ruin a reputation.
An over shared detail can permanently destroy trust in a relationship.
Your words can start fires which you can’t put out with more words!
The longer I’m in student ministry, the more I’m convinced that parents absolutely need to be proactive when it comes to their kids’ use of technology. As children are growing into teenagers in an ever increasingly technological world, this is drastically shaping how they grow up. While technology itself is neither good nor bad, students are using technology for bad purposes. Every month, new apps are being released which are designed to help students keep their activity secret.
- It’s never been harder to keep up with technology.
- It’s never been more important for parents to keep up with technology.
You can follow the Parent Cue blog HERE. They have lots of great resources for parents.
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Jon Acuff is the New York Times Bestselling author of five books including his most recent, Do Over: Rescue Monday, Reinvent Your Work and Never Get Stuck.
For 17 years he’s helped some of the biggest brands in the world tell their story, including The Home Depot, Bose, Staples, and the Dave Ramsey Team. Most recently he’s spoken to hundreds of thousands of people at conferences, colleges, companies and churches. Featured regularly on national media, Jon has been seen on CNN, Fox News, Good Day LA and several other key outlets.
In addition, Jon is also a big proponent of social media with blogs that have been read by 4 million people and more than 250,000 twitter followers. In 2010 he used his influence with his tribe to build two kindergartens in Vietnam. Jon lives with his wife Jenny and two daughters in Franklin, TN.
1. a sequence of actions regularly followed; a fixed program.
We all have routines. We all have patterns.
- What do you do when you wake up in the morning?
- What do you do when you leave for work? What do you do when your spouse leaves for work?
We all have fixed routines we just follow every day. We never intentionally set this course of action. We never planned to repeat it, but we all find ourselves repeating patterns with little thought put into it.
Routines are neither good nor bad, but they can be both good or bad. That’s why it’s so important that each one of us are intentional about the routines in our lives.
Most daily routines are fairly harmless or helpful on any given day. A goodbye kiss on any one day doesn’t have a radical effect on your marriage. However, a year’s worth of remembering or forgetting your goodbye kiss does have an affect. A year’s worth of coming home excited to see your kids changes your relationship with your kids. But, a year’s worth of coming home and going straight to the study also has an effect on your kids.