Winning Your Wife Back
If you’re married, at some point in time you won the heart of your spouse. I don’t know your exact story, but at some point in time, you saw your spouse and decided to pursue them and, as you pursued them, you decided that they were worth fighting for. Eventually you came to a moment when you decided to spend the rest of your life with this person.
It’s one thing to commit to love someone for the rest of your life, but it’s an entirely different thing to actually spend the rest of your life daily choosing to love them.
A big problem happens as soon as you get back from the honeymoon; you’re living together and sharing a room. When you take one sinner and join them with another sinner, you get more sin. And, with the sheer amount of time you’ll be together, you will sin against one another.
Sinner + Sinner = More Sin
Assuming everything goes great, and there’s no outside drama, you’re still both sinners. However, we live in the real world, there will be outside drama, tragedy, and stress.
Some stress comes from good things:
- Starting a new job
- Buying a house
- Having Children
But other stress comes from bad things:
- Losing a job
- Being robbed
- Car accidents
- Struggles with having children
As time passes, between our own sinful nature and the stresses of life, we can get so far off track from the vows we made on our wedding day. Our past good behavior can seem absolutely foreign to our current reactionary patterns of life. But, a successful marriage requires continually choosing to win your wife back; It requires daily choosing to love your spouse.
How do you keep winning with your wife after years of marriage?
I’m writing as a husband, but really these ideas work for winning a wife or a husband back. “Winning your wife” just sounds better. More importantly, I’m writing this essentially to give myself homework and public accountability.