[UPDATED October 16th]
On the night of October 9th, a young woman posted an open letter to her unborn child on reddit titled, “I am getting an abortion next Friday. An open letter to the little life I won’t get to meet.” If you have not read it, please do so before continuing to read this post.
In the 7 days since she posted her open letter, hundreds of people have responded to “support” her decision. Many have shared their own stories of abortion. Others described her letter as beautiful. However, due to the rules of the forum, the only “support” she is receiving is from people affirming the decision she has already made.
The moderators of the thread are actively deleting any comments that do not directly support her decision. So, there’s no real way to support her without endorsing her current decision. I know she’ll never actually read what I write here, but her story and her feelings are the feelings of 1000s of women in her position. I do believe one of these women might read this letter, or this letter may inspire more Christians to support women seeking an abortion by offering a true alternative. We can make a difference.
This isn’t a time for Christians to point fingers and fight culture wars.
This isn’t a time to analyze why someone would write a letter like this.
This is the time to show love and offer mercy and grace.
While we can’t change her mind or even communicate with her directly, we can do something. Maybe it won’t change her choice, but it will have an impact somewhere, somehow.
We can pray.
Ephesians 3:20 Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us,
Like many others, I came across the letter you wrote to your child on reddit, and it moved me emotionally.
I’ve never been in your situation. I don’t know the pressure you’re under. I don’t know the fear you are facing, but I do know the love for a child. I do know the weight of learning you have a child on the way. Right now, I have two children, and I still don’t feel ready to be a parent.
I truly believe you do want the best for your unborn child. While I understand that you’re scared of your circumstances, and you’re not ready to be a mom, there are other options. Sometimes, when we feel backed in a corner, we only see one way out, but there are other options. There are people who can and will help, if you will ask.
Abortion doesn’t delay when you get to be the mother of this child. There will be no next time for this child. You will not meet again. She won’t be able to call you “Mom.” Abortion means the Little Thing you love will leave this world.
Please stop and consider that what you feel is the best option for Little Thing may actually only be the most convenient thing for you. The best thing for Little Thing is not that you end her life, but that you find a loving family for her. I know many people who are looking to adopt, and my wife and I are willing to adopt your baby if you will allow us to.
Please allow Little Thing to be a Little Baby…
My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org. I can help find someone who can adopt your Little Thing.
– Sean Chandler